
Where The Gay Cause Meets the Christian Right
I spent a lazy Sunday night watching TV, eating take-out with my boyfriend, and calling a nearby Exodus International counselor. Richard Gabrielson was an affable man on the phone, while fumbling and awkward, and genuinely tried to provide me with some solid information.
What I was really after was some information on conversion meetings and places in New York City. Gabrielson was hard pressed to find me much information, but I gave him my email and he said he would update me in the following week. He did not seem that connected to a large network of help, but he was dedicated to trying.
Exodus International, founded in 1976, is a corporation focused on, as its name suggests, freeing those suffering from SSA, “Same-Sex Attraction.” Their website offers an interesting FAQ which answers the tough questions that the enterprise encounters.
One interesting question included in their list: ” Is AIDS God’s judgment against homosexuals?” And the crux of the response:
“In brief, AIDS is better seen as a reaping of consequences than as God’s wrath on a specific group.”
But, despite their hardcore bible-based assertions, Exodus, and other similar organizations like Homosexual Anonymous, have undergone major changes in the past years as a result of opposition groups like Ex Gay Watch. With outside pressure they have seemingly turned to softer ways of pushing their ideals.
“I really encourage everyone I counsel to get connected with a church,” Gabrielson said after spending 10 minutes searching for words, “one that is in line and can help them understand traditional Christian values.
Gabrielson has affiliated his local church, St. Andrews in Vestal, NY, with Exodus International and now holds support groups for friends and family of those “suffering from SSA,” as well as for the sufferers themselves. His personal contact info can be found on the broader Exodus website.
While Homosexual Anonymous has an affiliated church in New York City, Exodus International’s closest installation is a Hispanic church on Long Island.
Their is no question, from the testimonies and statements on their site, that the corporation is extremely dedicated and passionate about their cause, but Gabrielson did not give me the impression of a smoothly running operation.
After mentioning the Hispanic church (which I had already found on the website), Gabrielson said, “I’m so sorry about this, but I’m not really coming up with anything else. “
I had expected a swift indoctrination, an outpouring of idealism, a zealot, but I instead found a nice old man at home for the evening.
Exodus International is famed for their harsh efforts at curbing SSA and conversion. In 2005 Zach Stark was forced to the Exodus affiliated Camp Refuge by his parents. The camp used strict teaching methods to try and convert its attendees, and the whole of Exodus’ ideals came under review when his Myspace posts on the subject went viral.
The fight between conservative Christians and GLBT groups is a huge and nasty one, but the ideas of Exodus International (in a subversive way) try to bring the groups together.
As a gay man I have been scared and angry at these Exodus-like groups for most of my life, and I was struck with nerves when I picked up the phone to call Gabrielson. But, the most zealous thing he said was, “God Bless You,” at the end of the call.
Is this the new approach to success Exodus International is taking in order to seem more “Christian” or digestible? Or, is the “international” in Exodus International breaking down into more grass roots operations?
Whatever the case, I got off the phone with Gabrielson and laid down to watch a movie with my boyfriend, hand-in-hand, feeling a little safer about the world I was living in.